- Joined
- Nov 9, 2018
- Messages
- 985
- Reaction score
- 929
- Location
- Rainham, Medway (North Kent) UK
- Hive Type
- National
- Number of Hives
- 44 plus 17 managed for another
Last night I read through the whole of the Renegade beekeeper in Stirlingshire thread. I kept me awake late, so it must have been compelling. A number of people spent a considerable amount of time sharing ideas and insights and commenting on those already posted. It was one of many examples of the Forum working well.
There was also a considerable amount of time and brain space taken up with posts commenting on the tone of other posts (describing them as toxic etc) and pondering what makes people post in such a disrespectful way.
In vain did Philip (@pargyle) claim that the posters on the forum, while being 'robust', would not attack other people, no matter how dismissive they were of ideas which they disagreed with. The problem is that although it's perfectly fine to say that an idea is nonsense or rubbish, the one time it's not okay to do that is when you're addressing the person who has just expressed such an idea, especially when you are not already acquainted. That IS offensive, and many leave this forum because of this.
This is not new - or snowflakey. I have clear memories of seeing this happen five or six decades ago, and of course, frequently since.
I notice that Bee-L does not allow posters to describe other posts in this way.
I'm also going to take the chance here to mention (again) that many online groups do not allow anonymity. One effect of using real names that I would welcome is the ending of the cringe-making situation where a poster mistakes someone's gender by taking the first few letters of a name and assuming it to be a real first name. Not everyone looks for the little figure dressed in a frock - or not.
There was also a considerable amount of time and brain space taken up with posts commenting on the tone of other posts (describing them as toxic etc) and pondering what makes people post in such a disrespectful way.
In vain did Philip (@pargyle) claim that the posters on the forum, while being 'robust', would not attack other people, no matter how dismissive they were of ideas which they disagreed with. The problem is that although it's perfectly fine to say that an idea is nonsense or rubbish, the one time it's not okay to do that is when you're addressing the person who has just expressed such an idea, especially when you are not already acquainted. That IS offensive, and many leave this forum because of this.
This is not new - or snowflakey. I have clear memories of seeing this happen five or six decades ago, and of course, frequently since.
I notice that Bee-L does not allow posters to describe other posts in this way.
I'm also going to take the chance here to mention (again) that many online groups do not allow anonymity. One effect of using real names that I would welcome is the ending of the cringe-making situation where a poster mistakes someone's gender by taking the first few letters of a name and assuming it to be a real first name. Not everyone looks for the little figure dressed in a frock - or not.
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