Well I have to say my bit.
I joined this forum as a complete noob. I had no bee keeping experience and a box of bees in the garden.
Unfortunately after 3 very successful seasons the kids took garden priority, so the bees had to go - for now.
But background aside, I dont think anyone was ever particularly blunt with me or rude to me. I often use another non-bee related forum and compared to that place this is heaven. I asked a lot of questions here when I started. And I always got answers, I was never told, "that has been asked before - go look it up". I was discussing something with a noob on the other forum, and had the thread closed by mods as the subject had already been discussed and a verdict reached!
So maybe my view of this place is rose tinted as my other forum hang out is so bad. I wont say publicly what it is, but it is players of an obscure table top game that has been out of print for many years.
But I think this place is pretty good over all.
However I have mostly asked questions..............
Most (not all) the arguments I have witnesses here are when one person offers advice, then another disagrees with the advice given. Then it kicks off, no that's bad bee keeping etc. As a noob, it just makes you all look like a right bunch of d$^s. But dont worry, I quickly released that was not the case. With bee keeping there are many approaches and styles, so such blunt arguments/debits are going to happen. If bee keeping was simple, and there was only one super easy accepted way to do everything, there would be few arguments. But with such a complex subject matter conflict of opinion will always lead to arguments.
Asking questions is easy here, but I think you need a bit more bravery to answer them.
My other criticism of this forum is that there is what I will refer to as the, "forum accepted methodology" (FAM). Any advise given that conflicts with the FAM will be met with scorn. The FAM is good in my opinion. But there are other ways to keep bees, and I dont mean silly stuff like bottles, I mean various methods with frames and boxes. I suspect those who stray from FAM tend to be less vocal about it.
The end result being this forum will teach you one way of keeping bees, and only one way of keeping bees!
ps, Thanks again to all those who were brave enough to help me.