... but it is her house and her call.
And that's how it should be.
Probably not helpful, but our neighbours chimney bees have been there for many years (probably nearer 15 than the 10 I've said previously) and have defied all attempts at poisoning, in fact they seem to be thriving and now fill two flues.
Their chimneys are properly 'sealed', with an insect-proof vent at the position of the old fireplace, and are capped. There are wardrobes built round and across the chimney breast, so work inside very disruptive.
It's an oldish house, it's possible that smoke or standard amount of poison put in through the air brick has been dissipated or diluted because the feathering within the chimneys is decayed. The latest suggestion our neighbours had was to line the flues and then try smoking or pesticide. They've declined, because of the expense. A trapout is impractical because of the way the house is built - scaffolding is also very expensive.
The things that we've noted though, is that bees tend to like a certain style of chimney cap - the pot ones with the nice bee-entrance around them. They tend to avoid open chimneys or ones with wire cages.
If 'your' chimney has a means of access at the bottom of the flue, I'd be tempted to get it opened up and light a very smoky fire in a metal bucket. If there's an air brick, and there should be one, you might even be able to remove it and slide in something like a rectangular camping cooking pan and use that. It'll probably take a long time to drive them out though.